Sinful Sex

I found this website, and I read the article. I did try to read it with an open mind, because I know that if I'm ever going to learn something, it's probably not going to happen if I'm criticizing every word written. But there were a few quotes that caught my attention, and I had to respond...

 

"Gender, race and impairment all relate to what a person is, whereas homosexuality relates to what a person does."

(Lansdown, A., The 'Rights' of Homosexuals, Life News, p. 1, February 1995)

I've never had sex with a guy. But I am very much attracted to men, I have a strong desire to have a romantic relationship. I feel both romantic and sexual desires for other men. It's not my fault, at least not consciously. But even if there is some emotional or psychological reason for this, it's nothing that I have consciously chosen to feel. I DO NOT have sex with men right now. So for me, being bisexual is not something I DO. It is what I am. It is what I feel, every single day. It sometimes effects everything I do, too. I wont buy a certain shirt, because it looks too metrosexualish, and I don't want anybody to say it's gay. It kills me inside sometimes. For me, bisexuality is, or at least seems natural. I say that it seems natural, not because I'm convinced that it's not, but because I'm not sure. There are things that have happened to me - not bad or traumatic things, just things that occurred growing up - that I can say possibly might be why I long to have a strong loving man be in love with me. I don't plan on ever having a one night stand with anybody, much less another guy. I never want to be promiscuous or a slut. My sexual frustrations aren't so uncontrollable that I'm going to go out and blow every hot guy who will let me (Although popular gay culture might give me justification). And even if I never sleep with a boy, I will still be left with the attraction, and it's not something that I can turn on and off at will.

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"The final report of the Baptist Union of Western Australia (BUWA) Task Force on Human Sexuality states 'that a person becomes a homosexual ultimately by choosing to be involved in same-sex activity..."

If Steven has never been romantically, physically or sexually attracted to women, but always to men, yet he chooses not to have a relationship, romantic or sexual, is he still a homosexual? If he is choosing to remain celibate because he thinks its a sin? He wouldn't really be asexual, because he still has sexual desires, like most average human beings. I label myself as bisexual because I am attracted to both, almost equally. But I don't currently/activly sleep with both, so what does that mean I am?

Maybe more thoughts later, it's so late...